Domestic Violence


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Within an intimate partnership or romantic relationship, Domestic Violence is defined as controlling and/or manipulative behaviors by one partner toward the other partner, more than just a one-time behavior, but a pattern of hurtful and aggressive behavior designed specifically for the gain of the person doing the hurting. There are several different types of controlling behaviors a person can use to hurt a partner. These tactics of control include physical aggression, emotional hurt, aggression or manipulation of a sexual nature, controlling all the money in the relationship, using religious beliefs as a tactic of control, as well as harassment and stalking behaviors.

These hurtful behaviors don’t usually begin early in the relationship – these relationships start out wonderful, exciting, thrilling, and sexy. They start out just like every other relationship. But as time passes, the controlling partner begins to use tactics in small, subtle ways to get what they want, which initially doesn’t seem abusive. As more time passes, the tactics become more intense and the partner gets more of the control and satisfaction they want. The tactics of control then are no longer subtle and “not very often,” but are more intense, more hurtful, more controlling, more degrading, more humiliating, more dehumanizing. By this time, the victim has spent a lot of time hiding bruises, lying to family about the problems in the relationship, disconnecting from friends trying to make the other partner happy. They have spent weeks or months or years justifying the abusive partner’s behaviors as coming from stress, a bad childhood, drug use, or many other excuses that would eventually go away. . . but never did.

Domestic Violence happens in male-female relationships, male-male relationships, and female-female relationships. Domestic violence happens in all levels of our society: no matter poor or rich; no matter race/ethnicity or country of origin; no matter age, education, social standing; no matter occupation; no matter religion; no matter sexual orientation. By the time the victim in the relationship sees that they are being hurt and degraded and even systematically abused, often they have no idea where to go to get help.

That is why Family Support Services is here. The Crisis Advocates are available to answer questions, provide support and information, assist in planning, all without cost to the victim. Our Crisis Advocates do not tell victims what to do – we listen, and give information. And as the victim finds a path, the victim can become a Survivor. Domestic Violence. Within an intimate partnership or romantic relationship, Domestic Violence is defined as controlling and/or manipulative behaviors by one partner toward the other partner, more than just a one-time behavior, but a pattern of hurtful and aggressive behavior designed specifically for the gain of the person doing the hurting. There are several different types of controlling behaviors a person can use to hurt a partner. These tactics of control include physical aggression, emotional hurt, aggression or manipulation of a sexual nature, controlling all the money in the relationship, using religious beliefs as a tactic of control, as well as harassment and stalking behaviors.

These hurtful behaviors don’t usually begin early in the relationship – these relationships start out wonderful, exciting, thrilling, and sexy. They start out just like every other relationship. But as time passes, the controlling partner begins to use tactics in small, subtle ways to get what they want, which initially doesn’t seem abusive. As more time passes, the tactics become more intense and the partner gets more of the control and satisfaction they want. The tactics of control then are no longer subtle and “not very often,” but are more intense, more hurtful, more controlling, more degrading, more humiliating, more dehumanizing. By this time, the victim has spent a lot of time hiding bruises, lying to family about the problems in the relationship, disconnecting from friends trying to make the other partner happy. They have spent weeks or months or years justifying the abusive partner’s behaviors as coming from stress, a bad childhood, drug use, or many other excuses that would eventually go away. . . but never did.

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Office phone: 806-342-2500

24-Hour Bilingual Crisis Hotline phone number: 806-374-5433

Toll Free 24-Hour Crisis Hotline phone number:  844-363-3452 

We are located at 1001 S. Polk, Amarillo Texas , 79101

Domestic Violence/Sexual Assault Hotline

Individuals needing assistance who are deaf or hearing impaired may contact us with the assistance of Relay Texas. Dial 7-1-1 or 1-800-RELAYTX (1-800-735-2989) for assistance in communicating with our Sexual Assault / Domestic Violence Hotline. The Hotline has an Advocate available 24 hours, 7 days per week.